Marcy Segal – Nesting 101: Is it right for your family?

July 30, 2022 Blog No Comments »

Going through a divorce or separation isn’t easy for anyone – especially children. Depending on the custody agreement, parents may find that their children are going back and forth between each parent and essentially have two homes. An alternative option that has recently become more popular with separate or divorced parents is called nesting. Here’s what you need to know to determine if it’s the right option for your family.

What is nesting?

Nesting is when parents keep the matrimonial home as the home that the child(ren) live in, and the parents will rotate living there when it is their individual time with their child(ren).

In most situations, the parents will also keep a separate residence for themselves to live in when it is not their time to be with their children.

Why would nesting be used?

For many couples who are navigating their new worlds, post-divorce, it can be a good way to transition the family into their new situations until both parents are comfortable enough to move on and purchase another home for themselves and their children. This is usually only used as a short-term solution and is typically only practiced within the first year after a couple goes through a divorce.

Benefits of nesting for a family

This type of arrangement may be unconventional, and it may seem odd for divorced parents to be sharing a home and rotating in and out, but it can be beneficial.

One of the biggest benefits to this type of situation is that it creates a stable and familiar home for the children, and they do not have to move between new houses they do not know. This also allows their children to continue to go to the same school they always did and keep the same group of friends – which can be especially important for that time period after their parents separate.

Additionally, parents can use this time to thoroughly consider the options they have for moving on post-divorce. They will not be in a rush to sell the family home and they can really decide if one parent is going to retain it or if they are going to sell it and both purchase new homes.

When you shouldn’t use nesting post-divorce

While nesting can be a great option for transitioning into the new routines that everyone is going to experience, it can also create some bigger problems and may not be the right solution for everyone.

For example, for some children, nesting may create a false sense of security and they will be hopeful that their parents are going to get back together since they technically live in the same house still.

Further, it can make it difficult to figure out child support responsibilities when both parents are still living in the family home and responsibilities over things like home repairs may become points of contention as to who should be handling them and when.

Contact Marcy Segal today

Nesting is not going to be the right option for everyone, but it can be a good solution for some families who are in the middle of a divorce and who are figuring out how to transition into their new lives.

If you think this might be the right option for you, contact one of our family lawyers today to have a conversation, and create the opportunity to discuss this with your former partner.

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